What you resist persists. This powerful statement is so fundamental to our spiritual growth that I think it’s time to talk about it some more in our sacred love guidance space. The phrase was coined by my spiritual hero in psychology, Carl Jung. I’ve been a devoted student of his beautiful work for many years. It would have been amazing to meet him in person. Luckily, he was a very dedicated psychiatrist, and a splendid writer, so many of his ideas, perspectives, and thoughts are now captured in his grande book collections, and I’ve had the pleasure of reading many of them through the years. The Red book is next on my list!
You may have heard the phrase without paying much attention to it. If so, it’s time to sit down and do some peaceful reflection. Maybe make yourself a cup of tea or coffee, and put some soothing music on. I’m having my morning coffee right now. I just finished my daily hot yoga class, and I feel balanced, radiant and focused.
This is the space we want to be in. Living from our heart, feeling whole and connected. There are times however, when our boat is rocked, and we may even fall in the water and find ourselves in the rough stormy sea. If anyone has been in those waters, it’s me. I’ve been pushed into the water many times, and often because I attracted similar situations into my life where this kept happening. If this sounds familiar, you may be trapped in an emotional pattern, without even being conscious of it.
That was me, I was trapped in one emotional pattern after the other, moving around the world, from one country to the next, always looking from more freedom – as it would turn out – from my own inner emotional patterns – of giving away my power and not believing in myself.
I had low self-worth, and suffered from anxiety, and was desperately trying to belong somewhere. I was scared of my own anger and frustration. I kept attracting situations into my life where I would feel controlled, and where I would fear that my own spiritual path was in jeopardy, and as a result I was continuously searching for freedom.
I resisted my inner anxiety, and low self-worth, thinking it was not resonating with who I was, but it persisted – and consequently I would be presented with more and more life challenges, including unhealthy relationships where I would feel even more controlled and powerless.
I had already steered my career in the direction of dream psychology, and begun working as a dream expert, and was flourishing in many aspects of my life. I often went to bed asking my dreams for guidance about my life, but not once had I asked my dreams to understand myself on a deeper level. Then one day it struck me. It was time to understand myself, and why I kept attracting all the same situations.
A big dream unfolded, with a girl who was trapped in a dragon’s fist. I will talk more about my dream another day. It turned out to be the beginning of an alchemical soul transformation for me. In short, the dream helped me realize how I had created these controlling energies in my life myself, but rather than blaming myself for it, I saw the little girl inside me, and felt so much love. I saw my anxiety, my power, my frustration and anger, and for the first time I felt compassion for every aspect of myself.
When I finally understood what I was doing, the self-knowledge I developed helped me accept where I was, and more importantly who I was. This is is the first step on the journey of self-love. Accepting ourselves.
The time had come for me to enter the unknown, and no longer rely on the comfort of my old emotional ways of handling situations. It became clear that this would not happen as long as I was fighting my feelings, or trying to avoid them by neglecting them, but from from loving myself and living every day from my heart.
I think it’s important to remember not to be so hard on ourselves. Wherever we are in our level of soul growth, that is where we are. There is no time pressure on our soul journey. There is only now.
I am so grateful you have found your way to this sacred space. This is an invitation for all of us to visualize new adventures, without resisting who we are, but rather surrender to ourselves, love ourselves, care about ourselves with compassion, living every day from our heart.
Anna-Karin Bjorklund, M.A.
Anna-Karin Bjorklund is a Therapist (MFTI) in Newport Beach, California, and the Author of Dream Guidance: Interpret Your Dreams and Create the Life You Desire! She loves sharing her joy and passion for dreams and soul growth, and has been interviewed by Money Magazine and Marie Claire UK, and has also appeared on Fox & Friends, and the Steve Harvey TV Show on NBC.
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